Strong Men Strong Marriages Podcast

The Two Questions Your Wife Is Asking After You Hurt Her

The reason you’re not as connected to your wife as you’d like to be is because you’ve hurt her in some way.

That might be an obvious way, like an affair.

Or it may be a more subtle way, like neglecting her over time or serving her with “strings attached” (mosquito behaviors).

Either way, you have created disconnection by hurting her.

Most men try to fix this by trying to tell their wife they’re sorry and to move forward.

But that doesn’t work.

Learn what DOES work in this episode.

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Summary:

-After you hurt your wife, she is asking “can I trust him?” and “will he hurt me again?”

-She draws closer as the starts to believe she can trust you, then pulls away when she’s afraid you might hurt her again

-Your job is to be consistent, trustworthy, manage your emotions, and communicate clearly (including the hard stuff)

-If you were hurt, remember you can’t rush trust. It has to be earned. Be patient with yourself. Make appropriate requests and set appropriate boundaries

-Consider coaching to help you through the process

Mike

P.S.  If you’re looking for marriage coaching, as an individual or a couple, I’d love to see if we’d be a good fit to work together. CLICK HERE to schedule a free 20 minute consult. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage, where you want to be, if I can help you get there, and about how long it will take to get there. CLICK HERE to schedule and we’ll talk soon!

Are You Married To A Narcissist Or Sadist?

Are you married to a narcissist or a sadist?

Probably.

But so is your spouse!

In this episode, you’ll learn what narcissism and sadism REALLY are…

How YOU most likely have BOTH of these traits…

And what to do about it.

Listen on Strong Men Strong Marriages here.

Watch on YouTube here.

Summary:

-Narcissism is needing to be “one up” on your spouse

-It’s also understanding the emotions of others, but not really caring about them

-Sadism is enjoying inflicting pain or suffering on other people

-Usually takes the form of enjoying your spouse’s failures, or enjoying denying them what they want

-Learn to see these traits in yourself, admit them and get feedback on them

-As you notice them in others, call them out and act in a more useful way

Mike

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Whether you’re wanting to do the work on your own, or as a couple… if you’re ready to work hard and have fun doing it, I’d love to be your coach. CLICK HERE to schedule your consult and I’ll see you there.

Valentine’s Special – 3 Kinds Of Love In Marriage

Love. A word that can mean SO many different things.

And confusion about what kind of love belongs in marriage causes LOTS of marriage problems.

In this episode we’ll discuss the 3 most valuable types of love in marriage…

And how to develop them.

Listen on Strong Men Strong Marriages here.

Watch on YouTube here.

Summary:

-Agape, or unconditional love, belongs in marriage. BUT, your spouse can’t give it to you, and you can’t give it to your spouse. You need to get it from an infinite source.

-Philia, or companionship love. This is essential for a great marriage. Committing to being great partners for each other for life.

-Eros, or romantic, sexual love. What distinguishes marriage from other close, philia, relationships. 

-If you’re not getting the kind of love you want, make sure you’re offering it in an attractive way, then ask for what you want effectively, and choose what YOU will do if your request is not granted (set a boundary).

Mike

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Better Sex In Marriage In 3 Simple Steps

Is your married sex life not quite what you’re hoping for?

Is it happening less often than you’d like, or does it just seem the same all the time?

If so, there are three simple steps that you can use to create better sex in your marriage.

Learn about them in this week’s episode.

Listen on Strong Men Strong Marriages here.

Watch on YouTube here.

Summary:

-Take ownership of your own sexuality

-Anticipation is your friend

-Connect minds and bodies

-Focus on pleasure and connection instead of orgasm (especially if either of you has difficulty with orgasm)

Mike

P.S. If you are ready to take your life and marriage to greater joy and intimacy, I’d love to be your coach to help you get there. You can join us in The Strong Man System, or we can work together 1 on 1 (as an individual or as a couple). CLICK HERE to find out how. 

How You Are Manipulating Your Wife

We are always manipulating the people around us.

We want something FROM them…

Or FOR them.

We want to “move” them into certain positions.

Emotional dependence on us or emotional resilience.

Sexual obligation or sexual choice.

Religious obligation or religious choice.

This week I got an in-depth view of how I manipulate my wife, kids and friends… and I didn’t like what I saw.

I took the time to INTENTIONALLY decide how I was going to try to move (manipulate) the people around me.

And the results are already SO much better.

Listen on Strong Men Strong Marriages here.

Watch on YouTube here.

Summary:

-An outside perspective is INVALUABLE to finding your negative patterns

-Find your “old moves” and intentionally choose “new moves” for the important people in your life

-Use mapping as a way to more deeply understand and connect with the important people in your life

-The book Brain Talk can help you through this process. You can get it on Amazon here.

Mike

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Who Decides If You Are A Good Husband?

If your answer is an immediate “my wife…” you might be missing something important.

At the end of the day, if you are relying on the opinion of others to tell you if you’re good enough…

You are on unstable ground.

The truth is that YOU get to decide:

  1. What a good husband (and a good man) is
  2. Whether you will live up to that or not

Of course your wife can give you feedback on how you’re doing. And that feedback is extremely valuable as you are on your mission to become the best version of yourself.

The difference is, a strong man seeks that feedback as a way to improve himself.

A mosquito seeks that validation as a way to finally feel good about himself.

You don’t want to put your self-worth in your wife’s hands.

Especially if you’ve done something to lose her trust. Because she will be seeing the negative for a while.

YOU get to decide who you want to be.

AND whether you will live up to that or not.

Listen on Strong Men Strong Marriages here.

Watch on YouTube here.

Mike

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and create an incredibly intimate marriage as a result… 

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Why Being A Husband And Father Isn’t Everything

This title was hard for me to write.

Being a husband and father are two of the most important roles that I have as a man.

But, those roles are not ALL of who I am.

And, even if I do poorly in those roles…

Or walk away from them all together…

(Gulp)

I still have value.

This was a BIG breakthrough for me and I’d love to share it with you.

Listen on Strong Men Strong Marriages here:

Watch on YouTube here.

Summary:

-God STILL cares about me (and you) even if I don’t do a good job as a husband and father

-Even if I walk away completely from my family, God will STILL care for me and send people to help me

-This actually gives me MORE motivation and LESS pressure to be a good husband and father

Mike
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The Secret To Achieving Your Goals In 2021

The Secret To Achieving Your Goals In 2021

What are your New Year’s resolutions?

A better marriage?

To lose weight?

Make more money?

Stop a bad habit?

We’ll get into why these goals may NOT get you what you’re looking for…

And how to find an infinite source of power to achieve your goals.

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Watch on YouTube here.

Summary:

-WHY do you want to achieve your goals?

-If it’s because you think THERE is better than HERE… you’re heading for disappointment

-Instead, set goals from a place of LOVE for yourself and those around you… and SERVICE towards yourself and others

-This is an INFINITE source of strength and motivation for your goals… and will unleash your true potential

Mike
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What Will You Give Jesus For Christmas?

What Will You Give Jesus This Year?

Merry Christmas my friends!

Sometimes we forget that we’re celebrating a birthday on Christmas… Jesus’s birthday!

And, it’s customary to give someone a gift on their birthday.

But what do you give the Man who LITERALLY has everything?

We’ll talk about that today.

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Summary:

-As far as I can tell, Jesus mainly asked for one thing: If ye love me, keep my commandments (John 14:15)

-The 2 great commandments are “love God” and “love your neighbor as yourself” (Matthew 22:37-39)

-So, if we want to give Jesus a great gift, it will be a gift of loving God, ourselves, or others

-For me personally, I’ll be focusing on the gift of serving the people around me with joy instead of comparing and seeking the spotlight

-I’ll remember that the greatest among you shall be the servant (Matthew 23:11)

Mike

P.S. The Strong Man System opens up next week. I’m looking forward to having those who are ready join us in becoming stronger men, husbands, fathers and leaders in the world.

Jesus – The Ultimate Man

As we strive to become better men, our ultimate example is Jesus Christ.

I’ve spent the last few weeks studying and trying to understand the character of Jesus, and I’d like to share what I’ve learned.

I also invite you to use these next few weeks to study Jesus as your example of manhood, and see where you can become more like Jesus, The Ultimate Man.

Listen on Strong Men Strong Marriages here:

Watch on YouTube here.

Summary:

-Jesus was a great leader by being a great follower of His Father. I can follow God, Jesus and other good men.

-Jesus was confrontational. I can stand up for myself and what’s right even when it’s unpopular.

-Jesus had an extremely strong sense of self. I am a son of God, and have infinite worth and potential. I am enough as I am, no matter how much money I make.

-Jesus wasn’t worried about social standing, but about serving others. If I want to be a great leader, I will be a great servant.

Mike
P.S. The Strong Man System opens up again on December 28-31. Make 2021 the year that you become the strongest version of yourself… and create the best marriage you’ve ever had in the process.