Strong Men Strong Marriages Podcast

The Counterintuitive Way To Get More Attention, Appreciation And Affection From Your Wife

How do you get your wife to pay more attention to you?

Appreciate you more?

Kiss, hug and have sex with you more?

Some couples therapists will say “just ask for it.”

This seems like it would work… BUT IT DOESN’T.

You know because you’re already trying this.

Learn what to do INSTEAD… that ALWAYS works… in this episode.

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Mike

What Is Success In Marriage?

You think it’s…

Good sex. Being appreciated. Being valued. Being loved.

And, a successful marriage does include ALL of those things.

BUT…

Your wife CAN NOT give those to you.

These things MUST come from something DEEPER and more SOLID than your wife’s words and actions.

And you CAN feel those things… even WITHOUT your wife.

You can feel full, valued, loved and appreciated.

Learn how in this episode.

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Mike
P.S. The Strong Man System introduction will be opening up on September 21, 2020. This is the course that GUARANTEES you will have the BEST relationship you have EVER had with your wife… in 90 days or less. CLICK HERE to learn more.

You Are Worth Choosing – How To Stop Needing Your Wife’s Validation

A lot of the men I work with are looking for VALIDATION from their wives.

Now, they will call it different things.

They will say “I just want my wife to care” or “I just want my wife to have sex with me” or “I just want my wife to reach out to me when she doesn’t need something.”

But, when it comes down to it, they are asking for their wife to VALIDATE their sense of self-worth.

I did this for YEARS in my marriage.

Unfortunately, it doesn’t work.

Your wife can NOT be responsible for your sense of self-worth.

She can try for a while, but eventually she’ll get tired of it.

Instead, you need to KNOW for YOURSELF that you have INFINITE worth and potential.

That you are WORTH choosing.

Then, you can go out and serve your wife WITHOUT expecting her attention, appreciation or affection…

Which is when you are MOST LIKELY to get it from her.

Because she knows there really are “no strings attached.”

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Mike

P.S. If you want to learn EXACTLY how to be the STRONGEST and MOST ATTRACTIVE version of yourself…

And have the BEST relationship you have EVER had with your wife in 90 days or less…

CLICK HERE to learn how.

I’ll see you there!

Why Physical Strength Matters – What I Learned From Dunking A Basketball

As I’ve thought about how to help my clients better, I realized that I neglected something VERY important…

Developing your physical strength and fitness.

Find out why in this week’s episode:

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Summary:

When you work on a physical goal, MANY good things happen…

-Your overall health and energy improve

-Your mind works more easily and quickly

-You are able to find purpose and meaning

-You have TOTAL control over it, which is powerful… especially when you’re feeling powerless

-You develop consistency and the ability to fail, both of which are necessary in to succeed in ALL areas of life

Mike

P.S. If you are ready to become the STRONGEST and MOST ATTRACTIVE version of yourself… and create a better marriage than you ever thought POSSIBLE in the process…

Come join us in The Strong Man System. I guarantee you’ll have the best relationship you’ve EVER had with your wife… or your money back. You can find out details here.

My Negative Marriage Pattern

In case you thought a great marriage is always perfect…

You’re wrong!

In this episode I share a negative pattern that has plagued our marriage for YEARS…

And what I did to FINALLY start breaking free from it.

Hint: It has to do with me feeling like a MARTYR in my marriage.

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Summary:

-When I feel like a martyr in my marriage, my WIFE is probably struggling

-Instead of COMPLAINING, use my strengths

-Spiritual strength – Be the strong and loving husband I want to be

-Emotional strength – Seek to UNDERSTAND her and manage my OWN emotions

-Mental strength – Use STFAIR to look at my thoughts

-Sexual strength – Approach sex in a way I can be PROUD of

Mike

P.S. I’m offering a special discount to 30 men who are ready to join The Super Man System – Alpha Group. You will learn EXACTLY how to build up these strengths and skills to have the BEST marriage you have EVER had. Guaranteed. And at a $500 discount. See the details here.

How To Be More Sexually Attractive To Your Wife – Interview With Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife

“Your wife can prop up your ego or your penis, but not both.”

Today I have a VERY special treat for you all!

Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife!

If you’re not familiar with her work, she is a licensed therapist who specializes in relationships and sexuality.

She is one of the people I respect and admire very much and who has helped me understand why focusing on STRENGTH is SO IMPORTANT when it comes to sexual attraction.

Listen on Strong Men Strong Marriages Podcast (Apple Podcast link here)

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In this interview you will learn:

-How the female sexual response works… and why being a good CHOICE for her is so important

-Why you need to STOP being “pathetic” when it comes to sex… and what to do instead

-How to approach sex with your wife in a way that’s ATTRACTIVE… instead of just saying “do you want to have sex?”

-My own personal breakthrough at the end of the interview about the feeling of “taking” sex from my wife… and how I can approach it in a way I can be PROUD of… even though my wife has a history of serious sexual abuse

You can find Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s excellent courses and retreats here.

And, if you are looking for a system to become a STRONGER and MORE ATTRACTIVE version of yourself, check out my free workshop and introduction to The Super Man System here.

Mike

How To Get Your Wife (And Others) To Do More Of What You Want

Most people come to me because they’re not happy in their marriage.

They’re not getting enough of what they want from their wife.

BUT, they usually are NOT doing the MOST EFFECTIVE things to get their wife (or others) to do more of what they want.

Learn the BEST and MOST EFFECTIVE ways to influence others to do more of what you want in this episode.

Watch on YouTube here.

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Summary:

-COMPLAINING will NOT get you more of what you want

-Figure out EXACTLY what you want your wife to do

-Ask for that, giving a REASON why you want it

-If she says “no…”

-Try to understand WHY

-Feel the hard emotions that come up

-Decide what YOU will do if she says “no”

-Follow through on what you said you would do

Mike

P.S. If you are ready to really APPLY what you’re learning and CREATE the marriage that you’ve always wanted, watch my workshop to see more of my PROVEN methods and to see how we can work together more. CLICK HERE to watch.

5 Lessons Learned From 15 Years Of Marriage

We just celebrated our 15th wedding anniversary at an amazing party with family and friends that are also family.

You’ll hear a few tips on how to throw a great party…

And  5 of the biggest lessons that I’ve learned through these 15 years.

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Summary:

  • 1 – Decide and then get spiritual confirmation
  • 2 – Have faith and let people help
  • 3 – Happy wife happy life is a lie
  • 4 – Intimacy requires bravery
  • 5 – You have to know the bitter to know the sweet

Mike

Faith In Marriage – How To Keep Going When The Going Gets Tough

Do you feel like you’re trying hard in your marriage…

But it’s making NO difference?

Is your wife INDIFFERENT about your changes…

Or even HOSTILE about them?

In this episode, we’ll discuss how you can use FAITH to continue to “do good to them that hate you.”

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Summary:

-Doing good is like planting a seed

-Continuing to do good is like watering that seed

-It can take YEARS to see that seed grow into a plant

-BUT, every day of watering counts.

-You are building up the roots. Becoming that better man.

-And good WILL return to you for it. Guaranteed.

-Keep watering. Have patience. Have faith.

Mike

How To Fight In Marriage… And Come Out Stronger For It

Do you have conflicts in marriage that leave you feeling STUCK?

Do you have the same arguments about sex, money, parenting, religion, in-laws or cleaning over and over?

Would you like to break FREE of that cycle?

You’ll learn how in this episode.

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Summary:

-Feeling DISTANT from your spouse activates your lower, “crocodile” brain

-Puts you into FIGHT or FLIGHT mode

-Common for one spouse to want to fight (talk about things) and one to want to “drop it” (flight)

-To get through this…

-CALM your crocodile brain

-Seek FIRST to understand, then to be understood

-Find the HIGHER way. Win win. Enthusiastic agreement

-Turn CONFLICT into more CONNECTION and INTIMACY

Mike