Strong Men Strong Marriages Podcast

How You Are Manipulating Your Wife

We are always manipulating the people around us.

We want something FROM them…

Or FOR them.

We want to “move” them into certain positions.

Emotional dependence on us or emotional resilience.

Sexual obligation or sexual choice.

Religious obligation or religious choice.

This week I got an in-depth view of how I manipulate my wife, kids and friends… and I didn’t like what I saw.

I took the time to INTENTIONALLY decide how I was going to try to move (manipulate) the people around me.

And the results are already SO much better.

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Summary:

-An outside perspective is INVALUABLE to finding your negative patterns

-Find your “old moves” and intentionally choose “new moves” for the important people in your life

-Use mapping as a way to more deeply understand and connect with the important people in your life

-The book Brain Talk can help you through this process. You can get it on Amazon here.

Mike

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Who Decides If You Are A Good Husband?

If your answer is an immediate “my wife…” you might be missing something important.

At the end of the day, if you are relying on the opinion of others to tell you if you’re good enough…

You are on unstable ground.

The truth is that YOU get to decide:

  1. What a good husband (and a good man) is
  2. Whether you will live up to that or not

Of course your wife can give you feedback on how you’re doing. And that feedback is extremely valuable as you are on your mission to become the best version of yourself.

The difference is, a strong man seeks that feedback as a way to improve himself.

A mosquito seeks that validation as a way to finally feel good about himself.

You don’t want to put your self-worth in your wife’s hands.

Especially if you’ve done something to lose her trust. Because she will be seeing the negative for a while.

YOU get to decide who you want to be.

AND whether you will live up to that or not.

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Mike

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Why Being A Husband And Father Isn’t Everything

This title was hard for me to write.

Being a husband and father are two of the most important roles that I have as a man.

But, those roles are not ALL of who I am.

And, even if I do poorly in those roles…

Or walk away from them all together…

(Gulp)

I still have value.

This was a BIG breakthrough for me and I’d love to share it with you.

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Summary:

-God STILL cares about me (and you) even if I don’t do a good job as a husband and father

-Even if I walk away completely from my family, God will STILL care for me and send people to help me

-This actually gives me MORE motivation and LESS pressure to be a good husband and father

Mike
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The Secret To Achieving Your Goals In 2021

The Secret To Achieving Your Goals In 2021

What are your New Year’s resolutions?

A better marriage?

To lose weight?

Make more money?

Stop a bad habit?

We’ll get into why these goals may NOT get you what you’re looking for…

And how to find an infinite source of power to achieve your goals.

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Summary:

-WHY do you want to achieve your goals?

-If it’s because you think THERE is better than HERE… you’re heading for disappointment

-Instead, set goals from a place of LOVE for yourself and those around you… and SERVICE towards yourself and others

-This is an INFINITE source of strength and motivation for your goals… and will unleash your true potential

Mike
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What Will You Give Jesus For Christmas?

What Will You Give Jesus This Year?

Merry Christmas my friends!

Sometimes we forget that we’re celebrating a birthday on Christmas… Jesus’s birthday!

And, it’s customary to give someone a gift on their birthday.

But what do you give the Man who LITERALLY has everything?

We’ll talk about that today.

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Summary:

-As far as I can tell, Jesus mainly asked for one thing: If ye love me, keep my commandments (John 14:15)

-The 2 great commandments are “love God” and “love your neighbor as yourself” (Matthew 22:37-39)

-So, if we want to give Jesus a great gift, it will be a gift of loving God, ourselves, or others

-For me personally, I’ll be focusing on the gift of serving the people around me with joy instead of comparing and seeking the spotlight

-I’ll remember that the greatest among you shall be the servant (Matthew 23:11)

Mike

P.S. The Strong Man System opens up next week. I’m looking forward to having those who are ready join us in becoming stronger men, husbands, fathers and leaders in the world.

Jesus – The Ultimate Man

As we strive to become better men, our ultimate example is Jesus Christ.

I’ve spent the last few weeks studying and trying to understand the character of Jesus, and I’d like to share what I’ve learned.

I also invite you to use these next few weeks to study Jesus as your example of manhood, and see where you can become more like Jesus, The Ultimate Man.

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Summary:

-Jesus was a great leader by being a great follower of His Father. I can follow God, Jesus and other good men.

-Jesus was confrontational. I can stand up for myself and what’s right even when it’s unpopular.

-Jesus had an extremely strong sense of self. I am a son of God, and have infinite worth and potential. I am enough as I am, no matter how much money I make.

-Jesus wasn’t worried about social standing, but about serving others. If I want to be a great leader, I will be a great servant.

Mike
P.S. The Strong Man System opens up again on December 28-31. Make 2021 the year that you become the strongest version of yourself… and create the best marriage you’ve ever had in the process.

How To Give A Great Christmas Gift To Your Wife

Gift giving at Christmas can be stressful… but it doesn’t have to be.

Use these strategies to give your wife a meaningful and thoughtful gift.

One that will be remembered and cherished… instead of forgotten next year.

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Summary:

-Ask her directly

-Ask her friends

-Think body, mind, heart, spirit

-What’s a hassle that I can take away or make easier for her? A pain I can help remove?

-If you’re going to offer a spa day, girls’ trip, house cleaning, make sure it’s SCHEDULED and PAID FOR and child care ARRANGED

-Consider the 5 love languages (gifts, quality time, words of affirmation, physical touch, acts of service)

-If you’re separated, focus on gifts that encourage her personal growth and friendships. Avoid gifts like words of affirmation that can easily become needy. You want the message to be “I want you to be the best version of yourself, whether we stay together or not.”

Mike

P.S. The Strong Man System opens up again on December 28-31. Make 2021 the year that you become the strongest version of yourself… and create the best marriage you’ve ever had in the process.

How To Be Emotionally Strong – My Simple 3 Step Formula

As men we sometimes think that emotional strength means rarely feeling emotion.

We push negative emotions down until we explode with anger.

Or we try to numb negative emotions with food, pornography, video games, alcohol or other things.

Fortunately, there are three simple steps that you can use to become TRULY emotionally strong…

Feel in complete CONTROL of your emotions…

And stop trying to “fix” the negative emotions of your wife or others.

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Summary:

-Emotional strength is the ABILITY and WILLINGNESS to feel ANY feeling… without acting destructively

-There are 3 simple steps to follow

-NAME the emotion you are feeling

-FEEL the emotion in your body (location, color, temperature, movement, character)

-DEAL with the emotion appropriately (body, mind, heart, spirit)

Mike

What To Do When Your Wife Is Depressed And Anxious

When your wife is depressed and/or anxious, it can be hard to know what to do to help her.

Today I have a special guest, Lizzie Langston.

She is an LDS postpartum coach, helping women overcome depression and anxiety that often follows having a baby.

We discuss how we as husbands can help our wives as they struggle with depression and anxiety.

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You can find Lizzie on her website or her instagram, @LizzieLangston.

Highlights:

-Don’t take responsibility for your wife’s depression or anxiety

-Don’t try to “fix” her depression or anxiety

-Physically being there, even without saying anything, is very helpful to her

-Make sure to be managing your own self-care well

-Make getting help not a big deal, as she likely feels like a burden and doesn’t want to be a financial burden

-Model getting help by getting help or coaching for yourself

Mike
P.S. The Strong Man System opens up again on Friday, November 27th – Monday, November 30th. Give your family the gift of a strong and loving leader in their home. There’s nothing more meaningful you could do for them.

How To Be More Confident

To be a strong and loving leader of your home, you need to be confident.

Confidence feels great, feels strong, and is ATTRACTIVE to your wife and others.

But, how do you become more confident?

There are 3 main steps:

1. Be someone who can be relied on. A man of your word. Keep the promises you make.

This includes saying “no” more than you say “yes” so that your “yes” is more valuable.

2. Realize your INHERENT value that does NOT change as a son of God.

3. Recognize and build up your gifts and abilities, and use them in SERVICE of others… instead of COMPARING yourself to others.

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Mike
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