Strong Men Strong Marriages Podcast

How To Put The Past In The Past And Move Forward

A lot of men complain that their wife can’t seem to move past their mistakes.


Whether they’ve made big mistakes like an affair, or smaller mistakes like not listening to their wife…


They just want to forget about it and move forward.


They get frustrated when they make the changes their wife wants to see…


But their wife doesn’t seem to appreciate those changes.

This lack of appreciation can cause them to stop trying, which just makes things worse.


Learn how to break out of this cycle once and for all in this episode…

And put the past in the past once and for all.

Listen on Strong Men Strong Marriages here.


Watch on YouTube here.


Summary:

-Asking for forgiveness MINIMIZES the damage you’ve done

-Stop trying to “dig yourself out of the hole” with good behavior-Instead, decide who YOU want to be as a man

-And ask for your wife’s FEEDBACK to tell you when you’re not being that man

-Asking for and being open to feedback shows EXTREME emotional strength

-Which is very ATTRACTIVE to your wife

Dr. Mike
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How To Put On The Armor Of God

Satan is attacking men, marriages and families CONSTANTLY.

Every day, 130 people commit suicide. Of those, 90 are men.

50% of marriages end in divorce. 40-80% of married people are unhappy in their marriage.

42% of Americans are obese.

The average savings for people age 20-40 is $2,000.

Satan’s goal is to make us WEAK and MISERABLE.

God wants us to be STRONG,JOYFUL and INDEPENDENT.

We defend ourselves and defeat Satan by putting on the armor of God.

Learn how to do that in practical, tactical ways in today’s episode.

Listen on Strong Men Strong Marriages here.

Watch on YouTube here.

Summary:

-Align yourself with God by being in integrity

-Use your sexuality in ways that are consistent with who YOU want to be

-Recognize there is right and wrong, and align yourself with right

-Identify your purpose and mission and move towards that

-Have the faith to do what is right and let the consequence follow (exposing your errors, fighting for win-win in your life and marriage)

-Fill your thoughts with light and truth

-Be in line with God’s Spirit and speak His words to influence others

Dr. Mike

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The 5 Essential Skills For A Happy Marriage

You want a happy marriage. 

One where you wake up feeling like the luckiest man alive.

Where you go to work feeling strong and confident, because you know your wife has your back.

Where you come home to a wife who smiles and jumps into your arms when you come home.

Where you sit down to a dinner of laughter and connection with your family.

After dinner, you sit and talk with your wife about your hopes, dreams and fears, feeling more connected than ever.

You head to bed for a night of passion and connection.

You go to bed thinking “I can’t believe this is my life.”

You CAN have this kind of marriage.

You just have to master 5 skills to get there.

In this episode I’ll show you what they are.

And, how you can learn them in just 6 weeks through my Marriage Basic Training program.

Listen on Strong Men Strong Marriages here.

Watch on YouTube here.

I know you’re busy. That’s why I’ve made this my SIMPLEST program EVER.

One 20-30 minute lesson each week. 1 skill to apply each week. Coaching on that skill.

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Dr. Mike
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The Top 5 Apology Mistakes

Most men think apologizing means saying “I’m sorry” and moving on.

But that’s a big mistake.

And it’s that attitude that will keep you “in the doghouse” and keep you from regaining your wife’s love and trust.

Learn what an apology is, and the common mistakes men make when trying to apologize, in this episode.

Listen on Strong Men Strong Marriages here.

Watch on YouTube here.

Summary:

-An apology includes seeing what you did that hurt your wife, acknowledging her hurt, and doing deep work to change yourself from someone who would hurt his wife

-Men will often not apologize at all, or get defensive

-They will minimize what they did (that was a long time ago, it could have been worse)

-They will get impatient and encourage their wife to “get over it” and “move forward”

-They will ask their wife to trust them 

-They will make it about them instead of the hurt they caused their wife

If you have done any of these, this episode will help you see why these are problems and how to change them.

Dr. Mike
P.S. Watch for my new program, Essential Skills For A Happy Marriage, opening at the end of this month. Having a happy marriage isn’t a matter of chance, or even finding “the one.” It’s about learning to build trust, have fun, communicate clearly and enjoy great intimacy. And you’ll learn EXACTLY how to do that in this course. Watch for the course in 2 weeks. If you haven’t joined my email list yet, visit http://mikefraziermd.com to join so you can be notified when it opens.

How To Flirt With Your Wife

Flirting can be one of the most fun things you can do in a relationship.

But often, we forget to do it after we’ve been married a while.

Or, we may have never been very good at it.

In this episode, you’ll learn the principles and techniques of flirting with your wife.

So you can bring fun, excitement and romance into your marriage.

At the end of the day, flirting is about bringing PLAY back into your marriage.

Listen on Strong Men Strong Marriages here.

Watch on YouTube here.

Summary:

-An easy way to start is by giving sincere compliments and appreciation to your wife, especially in public

-Communicate love and attraction through eye contact

-Touch her and kiss her… WITHOUT groping her

-Challenge each other to contests, add bets to make it extra fun

-Accuse her of being too forward… playfully

-Use artistic, creative activities to increase eros energy

Mike

P.S. Watch for my new program, Essential Skills For A Happy Marriage, opening at the end of this month. Having a happy marriage isn’t a matter of chance, or even finding “the one.” It’s about learning to build trust, have fun, and communicate clearly. And you’ll learn EXACTLY how to do that in this course. If you haven’t joined my email list yet, visit http://mikefraziermd.com to join so you can be notified when it opens.

The Top 5 Communication Mistakes In Marriage

Communication is the #1 problem that men, women and couples complain about.

In working with people, I’ve discovered the top 5 communication mistakes that lead to poor communication (and poor connection) in marriage.

If you can avoid these mistakes…

And learn the #1 communication skill…

You’ll be on your way to a happier, more passionate and more intimate marriage.

Listen on Strong Men Strong Marriages here.

Watch on YouTube here.

Summary:

-The #1 goal to have in your communication is to DEEPLY understand your wife

-If your goal is anything except that (at least to start), you WILL have communication problems

-Common things that get in the way of understanding are assuming you know what the other person means, deciding they can’t be understood, deciding their opinion is stupid and trying to prove your point, stopping short of your goal, and losing your cool

Mike
P.S. At the end of this month, I’ll be opening up an 8 week course that will teach you all the Marriage Skills you need to create a happier, more passionate and more intimate marriage. The course will start on April 1st, and you’ll learn and implement 1 new marriage skill each week. Watch your email for more information, or join my email list here.

The Two Questions Your Wife Is Asking After You Hurt Her

The reason you’re not as connected to your wife as you’d like to be is because you’ve hurt her in some way.

That might be an obvious way, like an affair.

Or it may be a more subtle way, like neglecting her over time or serving her with “strings attached” (mosquito behaviors).

Either way, you have created disconnection by hurting her.

Most men try to fix this by trying to tell their wife they’re sorry and to move forward.

But that doesn’t work.

Learn what DOES work in this episode.

Listen on Strong Men Strong Marriages here.

Watch on YouTube here.

Summary:

-After you hurt your wife, she is asking “can I trust him?” and “will he hurt me again?”

-She draws closer as the starts to believe she can trust you, then pulls away when she’s afraid you might hurt her again

-Your job is to be consistent, trustworthy, manage your emotions, and communicate clearly (including the hard stuff)

-If you were hurt, remember you can’t rush trust. It has to be earned. Be patient with yourself. Make appropriate requests and set appropriate boundaries

-Consider coaching to help you through the process

Mike

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Are You Married To A Narcissist Or Sadist?

Are you married to a narcissist or a sadist?

Probably.

But so is your spouse!

In this episode, you’ll learn what narcissism and sadism REALLY are…

How YOU most likely have BOTH of these traits…

And what to do about it.

Listen on Strong Men Strong Marriages here.

Watch on YouTube here.

Summary:

-Narcissism is needing to be “one up” on your spouse

-It’s also understanding the emotions of others, but not really caring about them

-Sadism is enjoying inflicting pain or suffering on other people

-Usually takes the form of enjoying your spouse’s failures, or enjoying denying them what they want

-Learn to see these traits in yourself, admit them and get feedback on them

-As you notice them in others, call them out and act in a more useful way

Mike

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Valentine’s Special – 3 Kinds Of Love In Marriage

Love. A word that can mean SO many different things.

And confusion about what kind of love belongs in marriage causes LOTS of marriage problems.

In this episode we’ll discuss the 3 most valuable types of love in marriage…

And how to develop them.

Listen on Strong Men Strong Marriages here.

Watch on YouTube here.

Summary:

-Agape, or unconditional love, belongs in marriage. BUT, your spouse can’t give it to you, and you can’t give it to your spouse. You need to get it from an infinite source.

-Philia, or companionship love. This is essential for a great marriage. Committing to being great partners for each other for life.

-Eros, or romantic, sexual love. What distinguishes marriage from other close, philia, relationships. 

-If you’re not getting the kind of love you want, make sure you’re offering it in an attractive way, then ask for what you want effectively, and choose what YOU will do if your request is not granted (set a boundary).

Mike

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Better Sex In Marriage In 3 Simple Steps

Is your married sex life not quite what you’re hoping for?

Is it happening less often than you’d like, or does it just seem the same all the time?

If so, there are three simple steps that you can use to create better sex in your marriage.

Learn about them in this week’s episode.

Listen on Strong Men Strong Marriages here.

Watch on YouTube here.

Summary:

-Take ownership of your own sexuality

-Anticipation is your friend

-Connect minds and bodies

-Focus on pleasure and connection instead of orgasm (especially if either of you has difficulty with orgasm)

Mike

P.S. If you are ready to take your life and marriage to greater joy and intimacy, I’d love to be your coach to help you get there. You can join us in The Strong Man System, or we can work together 1 on 1 (as an individual or as a couple). CLICK HERE to find out how.