Strong Men Strong Marriages Podcast

5 Lessons Learned From 15 Years Of Marriage

We just celebrated our 15th wedding anniversary at an amazing party with family and friends that are also family.

You’ll hear a few tips on how to throw a great party…

And  5 of the biggest lessons that I’ve learned through these 15 years.

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Summary:

  • 1 – Decide and then get spiritual confirmation
  • 2 – Have faith and let people help
  • 3 – Happy wife happy life is a lie
  • 4 – Intimacy requires bravery
  • 5 – You have to know the bitter to know the sweet

Mike

Faith In Marriage – How To Keep Going When The Going Gets Tough

Do you feel like you’re trying hard in your marriage…

But it’s making NO difference?

Is your wife INDIFFERENT about your changes…

Or even HOSTILE about them?

In this episode, we’ll discuss how you can use FAITH to continue to “do good to them that hate you.”

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Summary:

-Doing good is like planting a seed

-Continuing to do good is like watering that seed

-It can take YEARS to see that seed grow into a plant

-BUT, every day of watering counts.

-You are building up the roots. Becoming that better man.

-And good WILL return to you for it. Guaranteed.

-Keep watering. Have patience. Have faith.

Mike

How To Fight In Marriage… And Come Out Stronger For It

Do you have conflicts in marriage that leave you feeling STUCK?

Do you have the same arguments about sex, money, parenting, religion, in-laws or cleaning over and over?

Would you like to break FREE of that cycle?

You’ll learn how in this episode.

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Summary:

-Feeling DISTANT from your spouse activates your lower, “crocodile” brain

-Puts you into FIGHT or FLIGHT mode

-Common for one spouse to want to fight (talk about things) and one to want to “drop it” (flight)

-To get through this…

-CALM your crocodile brain

-Seek FIRST to understand, then to be understood

-Find the HIGHER way. Win win. Enthusiastic agreement

-Turn CONFLICT into more CONNECTION and INTIMACY

Mike

3 Levels Of Communication In Marriage

Are you struggling with communication in your marriage?

Do you feel like you just don’t understand your wife, or that she just doesn’t understand you?

In this episode, you’ll find out EXACTLY how to reach the DEEPEST levels of communication.

This type of communication brings the PASSION and INTIMACY back into your marriage…

Even if that spark has been missing for YEARS.

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Summary:

-There are 3 levels of communication in marriage…

-Level 1: Superficial communication (business items)

-Level 2: Emotional communication (sharing of feelings, hopes, dreams, fears, getting to know each other at a deep level)

-Most marriages stop here (or get stuck at superficial level)

-Level 3: Intimate communication

-This is COURAGEOUS communication that is TRUE to you, but that your wife probably WILL NOT LIKE

-This type of communication is what can make your marriage EXPLODE to new levels of intimacy and passion

Short Circuiting Pornography Use – The Problem And The Shockingly Simple 3 Step Solution

If you are using pornography more than you would like, there is a perfectly logical explanation.

And, if you would like to STOP or CUT BACK on your pornography use, there is a simple 3 step solution that you can follow.

If you are interested in working through a program to implement these skills and ELIMINATE pornography from your life, contact me.

Listen on Strong Men Strong Marriages Podcast (Apple Podcast link here): https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/strong-men-strong-marriages/id1513290707

Watch here: https://youtu.be/_ALjaYZOldQ

Summary:

-Your brain has learned to use pornography and masturbation as a way to deal with sexual urges and negative emotions

-You can CHOOSE how you want to use your sexuality. Your true FILTER.

-In the moment, ALLOW the urge

-Name, feel and deal with your emotion

-Use STFAIR and your FILTER

-Track your progress. Target 100 urges processed WITHOUT acting on them.

-Learn from each urge. What worked, what didn’t work, what will you do differently.

Mike

P.S. If you are interested in working through a program to overcome pornography, contact me at dr.mike@mikefraziermd.com

When You Feel Trapped In Your Marriage – How To Feel Free AND Stay Married

Sometimes it can seem like you have 2 options in your marriage:

Stay married and miserable or…

Get divorced and finally be free.

Luckily, there is a third option.

That is to feel FREE AND stay married.

There are 3 marriage traps that make us feel stuck.

You’ll learn what they are and how to break out of all 3 in this episode.

Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/5bp2UZYTwrI

Listen on Strong Men Strong Marriages Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/strong-men-strong-marriages/id1513290707

Summary:

-Trap 1 – Trying to control your wife’s feelings and thoughts

-How to escape: Know your own worth, choosing to be the husband you WANT to be

-Trap 2 – Service and compromise. Rejecting and denying your own desires and agency.

-How to escape: Make requests, set boundaries, own your decisions

-Trap 3 – Thinking marriage HAS to work 

-How to escape: Realize you DO have the option to leave, then DECIDE whether to stay or not. Also let your wife choose whether to stay or not and know you WILL be ok either way if you build the necessary strengths and skills to get strong, get attractive, and get the marriage of your dreams.

Mike

P.S. If you are looking for marriage counseling or coaching, alone or as a couple, I’d like to invite you to a 30 minute Marriage Assessment to see if we would be a good fit to work together. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage, where you want to be, and your best next steps to get there. Whether we work together after or not, my goal is to have this be the best 30 minutes you’ve spent on your marriage. CLICK HERE to schedule.

Am I A Sex Addict? How To Deal With Sexual Urges For Other Women

Am I A Sex Addict? How To Deal With Sexual Urges For Other Women

As men, we have sexual urges MANY times throughout the day.

For some of us, we have used pornography as a way to deal with negative emotion… which brings on more negative emotion… which makes us want to use pornography even more.

This cycle could accurately be called a sexual addiction.

Is there a way to break out of it?

And are there ways to use our sexuality for good?

The answer is: YES!

Find out how here: 

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Summary:

-Your sexuality is an important part of you

-Ask yourself “how do I want to use my sexuality?”

-Use the answer to guide your sexual behaviors

-Sex addiction stems from an inability to tolerate negative emotion

-Learn to name, feel and deal with the emotions, instead of running from them

Mike

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What To Do When Your Wife Wants To Leave

When your wife tells you she wants to leave, it can be DEVASTATING.

Luckily, there are specific strategies that you can use to get through this…

AND feel STRONG and CONFIDENT again.

These same things are also the things MOST LIKELY to win her back.

Watch here: https://youtu.be/_dl3qgjctAA

Listen here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/strong-men-strong-marriages/id1513290707

Mike

Summary

-Allow yourself to FEEL the negative emotions

-Realize that you CAN feel strong and confident… no matter what she’s doing

-Try to UNDERSTAND her deeply

-Let her know you choose her, but you understand if she doesn’t choose you or if it’s too late

-KNOW YOU WILL BE OK NO MATTER WHAT SHE CHOOSES

-Build up your STRENGTH (spiritual, mental, emotional, physical)

-Have FAITH that good WILL come as you focus on becoming the BEST version of yourself. Because it WILL!

P.S. If you haven’t yet, make sure to check out my Win Your Wife Back Workshop. It’s only available until June 11. http://winyourwifebackpart2.pages.ontraport.net

How To Solve ANY Problem In Your Marriage

How To Solve ANY Marriage Problem… My #1 Coaching Tool

No matter WHAT is happening in your marriage, whether it’s..

-Infidelity

-I love you but I’m not in love with you

-Poor communication

-Conflicts about sex

-”I’m not sure why I feel the way I feel…” 

This tool will help you know EXACTLY…

1. What is CAUSING the problem in your marriage

2. What you can do to solve it

This is the #1 tool I use with my clients (and on myself).

Summary:

-STFAIR Model

-Situation (facts only)

-Thought (what you tell yourself about what happened)

-Feeling

-Action (what you do)

-Intention (why you do it)

-Result (what happens)

Mike

How to Win Back Your Wife’s Love and Trust – Even After Infidelity

How to Win Back Your Wife’s Trust and Love – Including the #1 Phrase I Tell My Clients To Use

If you have lost your wife’s trust or love…

Either by something BIG (like an affair)…

Or by not doing the “little things” over time…

There is a PROVEN strategy to win back that trust and love.

And, there is ONE phrase that can SPEED UP that process.

Watch this video to see how:

If you have lost your wife’s trust or love…

Either by something BIG (like an affair)…

Or by not doing the “little things” over time…

There is a PROVEN strategy to win back that trust and love.

And, there is ONE phrase that can SPEED UP that process.

Summary:

-Trust and love are LOST by breaking promises, big or small

-Trust cannot be GIVEN

-You have to EARN it by making and keeping small promises over time. Like building a house brick by brick

-You must COMMIT to becoming a man of your word, and acting as the best version of yourself, EVEN and ESPECIALLY when you are not getting what you are hoping for from your wife.

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And, if you are ready to take your strength training and your marriage to the next level, visit work with me to learn how.

I’ll see you there!

Mike